June 20th, 2006

msauvage purple

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Just as a coda to the Charlotte Lennox thing, we have at least two confirmations of some of the skullduggery. Given that she's admitted to being sporkify and the police have definitively disproven the Louis Movello thing, it's pretty much over, I think. I'm saying this because--it's none of my business, but--well, hell, I'm always sticking my nose into everything, so why stop now? A lot of good has come from people realizing that they were deceived and fed misinformation, and a lot of old feuds are being resolved. I'm largely seeing people who are more than willing to reconcile and forgive and write a lot of mistakes off as the influence of one person. But there are a few people doing the ostrich thing, I'm hearing--burying their heads and claiming it's not important or that it doesn't matter that people were hurt. I have a feeling that a lot of this reaction is caused by fear and--not guilt, exactly, but feeling very uncomfortable with what's been revealed. Worrying that people are going to gloat at them, or rub in past mistakes, or do the dance of I Told You So. And I just wanted to take this opportunity to say that I'm not seeing that. I'm seeing a lot of people coming together and embracing anyone who fell afoul of this person, whether they were attacked or whether they acted, unknowingly, on her misinformation. I'm just saying, don't be afraid. No one's going to make you eat crow. If you were a good friend of this person, no one's asking you to burn her at the stake without question. I've seen several people comment on the Charlotte Lennox entries saying that they think it's perfectly reasonable that a close friend might start asking questions, but wouldn't desert someone entirely. No one's demanding that you defriend people and renounce them and believe everything the accusers say unquestioningly. It's just that, in the the long run, it'll be a lot better to say, "Okay, clearly something is going on here, and I don't know how I feel about that yet, but yes, people were hurt, and they have my sympathy" than to just pretend that it didn't happen or it doesn't matter. You don't have to bow and scrape and beg forgiveness for some vague sin. Just acknowledge that something hurtful happened, even if we're still in the discovery process and aren't entirely sure what's what yet. I think acknowledgement is all that people really want from others who were equally deceived.

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