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Peoples of the internet! So I have read over your de-stressing suggestions--a lot of them were what I expected, but I was curious as to what people would recommend most often, and also the more unusual suggestions. (This is related, but I'll go ahead and ask up front where people will see it: does anyone have BPAL/TAL imps of Milk & Honey and/or Blinding Glory of Love they'd be willing to sell me? I kind of want to put off buying entire bottles at $25 each until I've tried them, and also, until I have the second e-book out.) So, I present to you some--not all, but some--of y'all's suggestions, with additions of my own where applicable:

Aromatherapy: Hence the request for imps. Actually, lavender gives me headaches, as do many florals. But I like citrus, fruit, vanilla, ginger/cinnamon, and generally sweet/foody scents, which is why I got the solid perfume of Honey I Washed the Kids at Lush (and raided their candy-scented soap selection). The TAL scents also supposedly have some kind of "ritual" benefit, which I tend to take more as "I feel like this will make things more positive, so therefore I feel more positive." White Light is the one I have, and I try to use it sparingly; it's kind of a warm white cinnamon floral, possibly with a bit of lemon? I don't really know how else to describe it.

Meditation: Still figuring out how to do that effectively. I mean, y'all had a lot of helpful suggestions. It's just something you  have to practice.

Yoga: Yeah... I don't really know how to do that. Again, y'all had a lot of helpful online instruction/video recommendations, though.

Walking: Yeah, I should definitely do this more.

Tea: Well, I did get those tea cups at the Christmas swap, didn't I?

Alcohol: "WOOOOOOOOOO!" 

Coloring: I can't believe I had forgotten about this, considering that this is the reason I have Emergency Crayons. Doodling freehand works, but I personally enjoy coloring books--I really liked them in college--and my favorites are the more intricate, grown-up variety: historical costumes from Bellerophon Books. This is probably the only place you will ever find a paper doll of Messalina with a handy description of her sexual exploits.

Retail therapy: I have just enough money now to get myself in trouble on this one, but I am trying to be good. However, I had not bought anything new to wear (aside from the dress I wore to The Lovely Emily's wedding) in five years (you may commence being appalled), so I feel like I should be forgiven for buying multiples of new sweaters I liked in different colors. (This is why the Cosmo horoscope made me laugh.) I am also struggling to refrain from buying Tonner Prom Bella and Edward off Amazon because I don't even want them (and Prom Edward weirds me out really bad, and considering that I already have an Edward and I feel bad enough about that, in a "Twilight fandom is insane and you are part of the problem" kind of way, and queenanthai bet her husband five dollars that I couldn't sleep through the night with Tonner Edward posed "watching" me but I TOTALLY DID, BECAUSE IT IS JUST A DOLL, PEOPLE, so getting weirded out over this one is really saying something), but they are marked down fro $140 to $40, let me repeat that for you, they are marked down a hundred dollars, and the part of me that is genetically predisposed to hunt bargains for sport is really suffering over here. But what would I DO with them? There are no proms in Shelfia! I don't even like the dress! Financial responsibility is hard.

Makeup/Makeovers: This is also where the retail therapy comes in; I have tried to refrain from buying samples of every single thing on the Aromaleigh site (SO CHEAP), but again: so hard. And I know I can't wear blue eyeshadow. I know this. But when you tell me that Plush Romantic is "Mysterious smudged indigo with brilliant bright sparks of blue. This beauty can't be captured by camera!," I have to know. For a dollar, I want to see it for myself. And it is really, really pretty. I'm just not sure I can actually wear it. Fortunately, a lot of the browns, light pinks, beiges and peaches look pretty good. I have entire Google Documents devoted to cataloguing which shades I have and which combinations work, because...

Sorting: ... sorting things is relaxing. I hate cleaning, but I love organizing. This is why I never get very far with cleaning, because I get hung up on arranging the books on that one shelf by some weird subject-related criteria known only to myself.

Art therapy: Actually, magazine collages were my thing when I was in high school and college. In fact, the clipping and sorting (speaking of which) was my favorite part. I did some interesting things with boxes, like decoupage or something, but it was the act of clipping and sorting that I found so relaxing (and keep in mind that I had not yet been diagnosed with or treated for bipolar depression. I think this may have been part of how I coped with it). My family, particularly my mother, was not fond of this, however, as my collection of magazine clippings took up several large boxes and a whole lot of space. I still have piles of unclipped fashion magazines under my bed that I can't quite bear to part with.

You know, now that I think about it, this may be why I love The Littlest Edward so much: I've got the clippings and he's got the scrapbooks. We are meant for each other, in an action figure/delusional writer kind of way.

Knitting: I still have that starter kit from Christmas four years ago. I really should get started on that.

Games: I spent the worst winter exam period of my college career playing Free Cell and Neopets games as often as I could. (Let us not even get into my iPhone solitaire addiction during the Compocalypse.) I actually read A Study Somewhere (You Know, One of Those Studies) that said there's a correlation between feeling depressed and playing computer games--not that games cause depression, but that people who are depressed often seek comfort in or distraction from playing relatively mindless, repetitive games. And I am here to tell you: Yes. They do. They totally, totally do.

Music: I am totally already on top of this one. I listen to single songs obsessively on repeat anyway; I tend to prefer uptempo pop or rock with lots of drums and electric guitars. Slow ballads are right out, although angsty/shouty power ballads can be okay. The tempo I prefer tends to inversely match my mood--I can handle slower, moodier stuff when I feel good, but I seek refuge in the cheesiest, boppiest music you've got when I'm depressed. It's to a point where my family knows that if early Britney Spears goes on repeat, it's time to call my doctor.

Sometimes, however, I do like quieter, more meditative songs. The three that come to mind are Neneh Cherry's "Move with Me," Lori Carson's "Fall in the Light" (from the Strange Days soundtrack, and may I recommend that movie to you for New Year's if you have not already seen it), and Chicane's "Saltwater." 

And with that, I leave you, so as to get ready to--brace yourselves--leave the house.


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So I tried to go to Aromaleigh's site - and it's asking for a name and password. Do you know how to get past it?

Never mind - I just found a blog saying the site is down for a few days!

This may sound hokey but I am a big fan of acupuncture. I know "being poked with needles" doesn't sound relaxing but my people (yes I have people hah) have done a lot to help with some things like my body going haywire and the chronic insomnia. I wish I could fly you here to experience their good work.

I also recommended acupuncture, but it didn't make the list. I've been going for several years, and currently go to two clinics, which makes me feel a little spoiled—not necessarily a bad thing.

This site recommends one practitioner in Birmingham. (You did say you're in Birmingham, didn't you?) Actually, of the two clinics I go to, one is a student clinic (and therefore the students are supervised by their instructors) and the other is a branch of City Acupuncture. There may be an acupuncture school near you that offers student treatments.

not giving Twilight fanfiction a chance?? brb, Voltera

I swear, I was like that too, thinking fanfiction of a badly written book would be horrendous, but then I gave Angstgoddess' stories a try, and, omg, that chick can write

I really just don't read fanfiction, like narrative type things (as opposed to quick humor pieces or parodies). It's a time management thing, mostly. Only so many hours in a day, and I'm already behind on my own work, plus a stack of books that's about three feet high.

I hate cleaning, but I love organizing. This is why I never get very far with cleaning, because I get hung up on arranging the books on that one shelf by some weird subject-related criteria known only to myself.

I am the same way. I don't clean often, but when I do, it turns into a giant production of organization and arranging things in "keep" and "purge" piles and trying to remember why I held onto a stack of InStyle and Entertainment Weekly magazines from 2003 (damned if I know). A lot of times I end up crying, and it's very cathartic.

I do this too! Sometimes I even keep things I know I don't want just so I can have the satisfaction of recycling them later all at once.

Start knitting, try something small and simple, that's how I went. I used to use it as an excuse to keep people from bothering me as well as a way to get myself focused and relaxed.

Ooh, coloring.
I have a big book of My Little Pony for coloring. And I have a French Harry Potter Coloring Book.
It's fun. Especially with a cup of green tea.

If you're going to take up walking (hey, easy + free = good), you could see about picking up a pair of those new Reebok or Skechers shoes that help you exercise-more-than-you-think-you-already-are. I've got to get myself some of those as I need to break out of this non-exercising rut.

I'd recommend the Sketchers over the Reebok. I have the Reebok and don't notice any difference whereas my mother just received a pair of the Sketchers and immediately felt a difference in how she was walking.

Yoga is very easy for a beginner to pick up, but I think it's much better with a class. I started it in grad school when the pace of AHHH I'M GOING TO DIE was killing me, and after every class I felt more centered and grounded.

If there's a gym or community center or some such locally that offers classes that you can afford, I highly recommend it! Yoga is the sort of thing that often happens in church basements for cheap, so it could be a possibility!

Agreed! Find a class.

I will say one thing: Sutek's Tomb. I've probably wasted DAYS on that thing.

I would probably claim not to have depression, but I am a lazy, lazy wench. "Just one more game" is much more appealing than, say, doing the washing-up.

p.s. knitting, once you get the hang, is super-easy and super-addictive. I'm just warning you.

I love coloring! Coloring mandalas are very relaxing, and you can find tons of them free online for download and printing.

Meditation wise, we've been teaching our 2 and a half year old how, and we have "humming time" for a few minutes each night. Just pick a note and hold it. It forces you to concentrate on the note and on your breath. Otherwise, I use my finger labyrinths to help me meditate a little bit. You can find them free online, too.

There are bazillions of free coloring pages online, of varying degrees of legality. Lots of vintage (well, Sixties) stuff, and Japanese books scanned by US fans.

Games: I spent the worst winter exam period of my college career playing Free Cell and Neopets games as often as I could. (Let us not even get into my iPhone solitaire addiction during the Compocalypse.) I actually read A Study Somewhere (You Know, One of Those Studies) that said there's a correlation between feeling depressed and playing computer games--not that games cause depression, but that people who are depressed often seek comfort in or distraction from playing relatively mindless, repetitive games. And I am here to tell you: Yes. They do. They totally, totally do.

I concur. I've been in a rut since August and have been mindlessly addicted to Wizard 101. I made it to the top with one character, and started two more [plus I wanted the other cool spells].

I also have a habit of playing Solitaire for hours on end. It's amazing the ways you learn to 'cheat' on a computer game.

These and also Hidden Object games from Big Fish. One of my favorites though? Alice Mahjong.

OH MY GOD - It's not just me? Those Hidden Object Big Fish games are my opium. If I have a deadline, an exam, any sort of stressful thing coming up, it's one of those that helps me procrastinate through the stress, which does generally dig me deeper into a rut, but at least I'm not dwelling on it.

I am not alone!



Get yourself a cabana boy!

I LOVE walking. When I was super-depressed last winter, walking my dog was an enormous help. Even in the ice storm, it was nice to get out and breathe fresh air and hear the quiet of the neighborhood under snow.

Also, a few of of my happiest, de-stressing songs (if you are interested):
When You're Falling - Afrocelt Soundsystem & Peter Gabriel
Secret World (live), Solsbury Hill (live) - Peter Gabriel
When I Woke (the album) - Rusted Root
The album "Echo Echo" by Carbonleaf
Down in the Valley - Broken West
Sons & Daughters - the Decemberists
John Saw that Number - Neko Case
Oh Maria - Sister Act (You know it's awesome, don't even laugh)

Echo Echo! What a good album! I esp. like Live Less Ordinary.

I have a ton of BPAL imps that I can't wear, because of serious allergy issues. Email me at missy.pratt at gmail.com with your address, and they're yours. Most of them are citrus or foody scents, since that is what I love.

Aw, that's really great, thanks! My PO box is actually on my user info page; it's pretty reliable for small packages.

I didn't get a chance to post on the previous post, but my solution to pretty much any problem is to have a bath. When I'm sad, when I'm tired, when I'm stressed, when I'm sick, I head straight to the bath tub. My favourite thing to do is light floating candles and float them around the bath, with the lights off. It gives this beautiful reflection on the water and I find it very easy to mediate (or just, you know, think calmly). The candles just fizz out if they tip (and if you get decent ones, they won't tip at all) and, providing you have a good sized bathtub, they just float around and bounce off the sides of the tub and into each other and it's very beautiful to watch.

Colouring is good too. They used to have this giant sized adult colouring books in Vermont that I picked up on vacation. There was one with carousel animals and one with old dolls and one with unicorns and such. They were gorgeous, but the store I got them from went out of business and I don't know who made them. They were awesome, though. I also have one of those costuming colouring books, Fashion Then and Now, which I think you've mentioned before. It's so hard to find colouring books these days. They are all 'activity' books.