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cleolinda
Internets, I am pissed off.

Remember the game last year about what color bra you were wearing at the moment? The purpose was to increase awareness of October Breast Cancer Awareness month. It was a tremendous success and we had men wondering for days what was with the... colors and it made it to the news. This year's game has to do with your handbag/purse, where we put our handbag the moment we get home for example "I like it on the couch", "I like it on the kitchen counter", "I like it on the dresser" well you get the idea. Just put your answer as your status with nothing more than that and cut n paste this message and forward to all your FB female friends to their inbox. The bra game made it to the news. Let's see how powerful we women really are!!! REMEMBER - DO NOT PUT YOUR ANSWER AS A REPLY TO THIS MESSAGE- PUT IT IN YOUR STATUS!!! PASS THIS TO EVERYONE YOU KNOW


@cleolinda: If you want to raise breast cancer awareness, coy references on Facebook to your bra color or purse aren't going to do shit.

@cleolinda: You know what might? Using your status update to list the people you've lost to breast cancer, or the dates you lost them.

@cleolinda: Not this coy "Let's get the boys to wonder what we're talking about" bullshit, which is THE OPPOSITE OF AWARENESS.

@emandink: @cleolinda Is *that* what the "I like mine _____" thing is about? Oy.

@cleolinda: YES. IT DOES NOT EVEN MAKE SENSE. I don't "like it on the stairs," I set my purse down on the stairs, and PURSES AREN'T EVEN THE RIGHT END.

@tokaikko: @cleolinda Wait really? When I got a message trying to get me to do one of them, it didn't mention breast cancer anywhere.

@cleolinda: @tokaikko Yeah, that's what happened last year. That's HOW LITTLE IT HAS TO DO WITH ANYTHING.

@chekur: But cleo! How else will we gain awareness for a serious cause if we don't horribly confuse people?

@morganwolf: I like it... crammed full of receipts and thrown in a corner? Somehow I feel like that isn't helping anyone's cause.


YEAH, I SPOILED YOUR GAME, AND I'LL DO IT AGAIN.

1) YOU CAN'T RAISE AWARENESS OF SOMETHING IF NO ONE KNOWS WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT.

2) As mentioned, both this year and last year, there was a memetic drift where people stopped even connecting it to breast cancer...

3) ...which gives a good suggestion of what this is really about, which is: baiting guys with innuendo for attention. Tee hee!

4) I'm pretty sure we're all aware of breast cancer; this needs to be about something more useful, like reminding people of the prevalence of it (which would be the point of, say, listing people you care about who have had it) and thus the need for regular exams and early detection. "Hurr hurr, she likes it on the counter" DOES NOT ACCOMPLISH THAT.

5) Cervical cancer wants its metaphor back.


You know what? Put all the innuendo in your status update that you want. But don't act like it made any kind of difference. You might actually have to talk about cancer to do that.


ETA: Linking is fine. Also: "We're trying to raise awareness, MOTHER."



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There is not enough facepalm in the world for this. Between this and the purple shirt thing, I am just left going "So, what, we demonstrate awareness of causes only when no one else could possibly know what we're talking about, just in case talking about breast cancer means we're talking about BOOBIES, or in case the local bigots decide to deal with LGBTQ teens with a shotgun?" When is crusading only for those in the know?

And how in the name of fuck is that empowering? I read that line of this message and almost cried, honestly. We're not powerful (as anyone, not just women) if we can't say what we're talking about!

Yeah, but then we'd actually have to talk about CANCER, EW.

My roommate and I were having this exact discussion. Thank you for putting it into words.

Word. I automatically think less of people who post that shit. No matter how intelligent they seemed before or how many interests we shared.

May I link to this entry on Facebook? You've said this far more eloquently than I ever could.

God, this. My grandmother and my aunt are both survivors of breast cancer, and this campaign is not helping.

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Oooh, that's what my friends like on the chair.

Don't you feel so aware of breast cancer now?

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Oh Cleo, thankyou so much for this.

@tokaikko: @cleolinda Wait really? When I got a message trying to get me to do one of them, it didn't mention breast cancer anywhere.

I have to admit, my first thought when I read the above comment was that this is a metaphor for how I feel about organized religion, in that a message was given to the mortals and people essentially meme'd it over and over and over and took out what they wanted and added in what they wanted and thousands of years later, here we are with the supposed original message that was supposed to say one thing and it's very possible it said something completely different. *shrug*

It's like Chinese Whispers, only much much worse!

Actually, I also said this on my FB.

Also, I'd like to say I don't do meme games. Period. Ever. If you think you're raising awareness about something by playing a game, think again. If you think you're making a difference by signing an online petition, keep dreaming. Want to make a difference, DO something real. Donate money, talk about the actual issue, raise awareness. Cancer, bullying, discrimination, etc, are very real issues. Coy little games that don't actually say what they're about don't cut it. Want to play a game, fine. Don't pretend doing so makes you a better person.

I copied your initial response and posted it on my facebook as my status- credited to you of course, I hope you don't mind. But many of my friends have 'bravoed' you and agree- as do I.

I did the bra thing last year because I thought it was amusing. Simple as that. I didn't do it with the idea that it would make any difference with breast cancer. Instead, I donate money if I have it. Sadly, there are wayyyy too many organizations that I want to donate to so it's rare that I get around to them all.

Cancer terrifies me. I watched an aunt slowly be killed by it. It's a horrible horrible disease and really, you're right, thinking that making a status update is going to CHANGE cancer is idiotic. People need to get off their asses and away from facebook and actually make some attempt to make a difference.

The same goes for wearing purple to speak out against bullying. Bull shit. I always wear purple, it makes no difference. Wearing a shirt with flashing letters saying: "I love and support gays" might make more of a difference. But even then, it doesn't matter. What matters is if people take an actual stand against it. You see people taunting someone? Step in and tell them to stop. Teach your children that bullying is NOT okay and to accept and love everyone no matter their sexual preference, religion, or skin color. Wearing a shirt won't do you any good.

Argh I'm passionately angry about all of this today.

You're not the only one. This comment basically sums up everything that irritates me about these internet campaings but without all the sputtering and swearing that I fall into when trying to articulate myself.

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I don't have a "handbag."

And for fuck's sake, ladies. Be fucking direct. This coy shit helps no one except my rising blood pressure.

I'm glad I'm not the only one to see not just the futility, but the downright danger of armchair activism. It makes people feel like they've done something for a cause, but it's just a lot of nothing if the substance is removed.

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