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Because I think it really comes down to this
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cleolinda
So today is Spirit Day. I don't really have any purple to wear, nor anyone to see me wearing it. Bullying has been pretty exhaustively discussed on the internets the last few weeks (although I liked this post the best); I don't really want to get into any of the hows and whys. I was mildly tormented throughout my entire grade-school career, not nothing near as bad as a lot of people had to endure. And the one thing I've figured out from that experience, for absolute sure, is that bullying is able to happen when good people do nothing.

So it doesn't really matter to me what "reason" bullies decide on when they start picking on you. They don't think you're the "right" gender, the right orientation, the right color, the right size; I don't really care. What I'm telling you now is that I'm not going to just stand here anymore. Everyone always says, "Well, it's none of my business." Bullying will be my business now. If I see someone giving you shit, I will tell them to cut that shit out, and we'll take it from there. And if you aren't the one being bullied, and you're standing next to me, I hope you'll back me up. I hope you would do the same for me.

That's my contribution today.



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If this was Facebook, I'd hit the like button. I was bullied pretty extensively for my appearance (my coke-bottle glasses and then later, the lack, ironically enough). Bullying in any form is not ok. My little brother got pushed around so much that when the gym teacher put a hand on his arm, he came around swinging, not realizing he'd get suspended for hitting a teacher. And then the district wanted to make an example of HIM. Not the bullies. I have so little patience for that crap, I will go on warpath if it happens to my kids.

YOU DO THAT. My parents weren't bullied in school or elsewhere, but my mother saw enough of it going on that she decided to homeschool her kids more or less the second she found out that homeschooling was an option. And after hearing stories about bullying from my friends who went to public school, I'm incredibly grateful that she did. I don't really care how a parent keeps their kids safe from bullying: what matters is that they do.

I know of a lot of people who went to homeschooling as a result of bullying. Frankly, it probably saved their psyche, not to mention made them better educated since they didn't get distracted by that kind of rude bad socialization we apparently value as a society.

Hm. The teachers and admin always made it pretty clear that, since I always cooperated with them (yep, inveterate tattletale, but hey, if they other kids make me miserable they deserve what they get), I would probably have had to get into actual felonies before they ever disciplined ME, up to and including hitting back and stabbing someone with a straight pin. (The teacher in that incident actually told the stab-ee to shut up and sit down. But then I suspect the ones fantasizing about bringing a gun to class at my middle school were the teachers, not the students. There's a reason half the subs in the district wouldn't take a job there.)

The problem in my brother's case is he had the look of a bully, since he was over 6 feet tall by the time he was in 7th grade, and built like a lumberjack. But with the temperament of a teddy bear - long fuse that went nuclear if you got to it. But the other kids would try and make a name for themselves with him, and it got so the administration wanted to take away his playground privileges because of it. My parents, fortunately, fought them, and made it clear to him that he could defend himself, regardless of what the school said. So the punks who tried to get on his back and choke him would get dropped, hard, and try though the school might to discipline him, it was the bully's fault.

You poke a snake with a stick, it turns out to be a cobra and not a corn snake..not the snake's fault.

Exactly. But since we're in a society that likes to blame everything externally (McD's is responsible for my burns, not my lack of common sense!) it's an uphill battle to get people to grow the fuck up.

So having coffee that is just below boiling (they had set the heaters to the highest setting in violation of company policy and safety regs) in an improperly closed cup handed to you and having to get skin grafts due to burns that put you in the hospital when it pops open and spills is your own fault for not having enough sense to...what? Go to Wendy's instead?

The lie that was spread that that poor old woman sued because some tepid coffee spilled due to her own clumsiness makes me boil because it is so unfair that she had to go through so much pain only to have corporate spin successfully pin the blame on her for things that were out of her control. She only sued when McDonalds refused to cover any of her thousands of dollars of medical bills. They lost when it was documented that they had screwed up.

If we're going to have a tread about not blaming the victim then please try to not blame the victim in it.

My apologies, that wasn't a good example. You're right, a lot of the time we don't have all the facts, case in point. But it doesn't change the trend of litigiousness that has people sueing for things that aren't out of their control. I think people take the freedom of choice a bit far sometimes, in that they choose to believe they're not responsible for their actions.

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