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Okay, I want to run an experiment here. But first, a semi-unrelated explanation:

It's a personality test! Everyone loves personality tests!Collapse )

ETA: "Hey, you know those Myers-Briggs tests?"


"Wow, okay. So I took one again, I'd forgotten what I was, and I'm an INFP."


"See? I'm saying."

MY MOTHER: "I AM AN ENTJ! I am like the epitome of an ENTJ. And that's why I work in HR."

"Oh, well. Okay then."

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I get a different result every single time I take one of those bloody tests. This is perhaps an indication of how impermanent and fluid I tend to be. I remember vaguely that last time I took it it told me I was a Counselor and that I should be a therapist. This time? Protector! Eh, wev.

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I took the test, and I'm an ISFJ, but I am a total empath. It actually runs in my family.

I can't heal people or have crazy weirdo powers. I'm just extremely, EXTREMELY sensitive to the feelings of family and people close to me.

Back before the time of cell phones, my BFF and I went to different high schools, but I always knew when something bad had happened even before she called me. A few of the times that it was really bad I actually picked up the phone to call her (just knowing something had to be wrong) and she would already be there on the phone.

It gets very difficult because I'm married to a man who wears his emotions on his sleeve. And he's just naturally a very grumpy person.

There are times that I can just feel it coming off of him in waves. It makes our whole house tense. And finally I just had to tell him that he had to learn to get over some of these things. For my sake. Because every time he got mad I had to be mad too, and I just hated it.

If you ever discover a way to block those feelings let me know. It can be very depressing.

Fellow INFP here (took two tests and both came up with the same thing). I also polled that I'm an empath, but I've learned (very much from the school of hard knocks) how to distance myself from the emotion. It's still easy for me to get caught up in the extremes (jubilation or bleak depression) of others I'm with; in those situations I'm often uncomfortable as I recognize it and it's effect on me.

I also tend to put on masks of emotion to keep what I'm feeling hidden - for example I could be mad but I'll smile or laugh and walk away, fuming, so as not to give the other person the satisfaction of seeing me angry (which I know they want). One big lesson I learned very early on was giving someone no response whatsoever - it always pisses them off. By far the most annoying however are the ones who dump their depressing feelings on me then feel better afterwards, while I'm now tired and achy. I don't do it so much with strangers but it's happened more than once with good friends, and I've literally had other friends intervene on my behalf in those instances.

I am INFJ, and I scored a 98% on the Judging aspect.

This explains a lot. My mother will love this.

I'm INFJ too and judging doesn't mean literal judging, it just means we value order. For example the thought of being late to an appointment makes me feel a little ill where as many people think it's totally okay to be late. I also feel a sense of mental order if my physical space is orderly. This doesn't mean my space is always orderly, its just that I find it comforting when things are tidy.

I don't always agree with their descriptions though. I would HATE to be a counselor. I know that it's just the title and not the main suggested job or anything, but still... ugh, it sounds awful.

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INFP/J is what a huuuuuge majority of writers fall under.

Also, I think fandom exists as this great multinational underground thing because most INFPs are not surrounded by like people in meatspace.

I took this test years ago, but can't remember what my result was then. I don't think I was an INFP, though, which is what I got this time. The thing is, I'm not discounting either result: I've gone through a lot of emotionally upsetting crap over the last three and a half years, and while I don't think it has changed who I am fundamentally, I think it has brought out aspects of my personality I'd never really acknowledged before, or had perhaps repressed.

Reading the Keirsey profile for INFP made my jaw drop. Yeah, totally me. At least, the me I am now. The part describing the INFP child was scarily accurate. Despite hitting six of the eight criteria for an empath, I don't really think I qualify as one. Or, can I qualify as a moderate one where I can easily suss out what people are feeling but am able to keep an emotional distance? Or would that disqualify me as an empath? I'm not really sure.

It sounds like you're an empath who functions well, as opposed to someone who's knocked flat by it, like me.

Total ISFJ, which is what I've always gotten, so no surprise there.

Also a complete empath, and LOLed at the fact that it said you probably are if you answered 'yes' to one-three of those. I answered yes to ALL of them. So no big shock that now that I have a job where I'm interacting with people all the freaking time that when I'm off all I want to do is be alone in my room doing nothing. Argh.

ALL OF THEM, yes. Every single list I've ever seen, too. One list finally threw in, "And then you over-eat after someone makes you feel drained to pad yourself from the world" and I nearly threw something. "SO THAT'S WHY!?!"

I've known I was an empath for ages. It's not fun. At all. I mean, it makes it easier to understand other people's feelings, but uuugh.

I tend to feel like I might be an empath mostly because if I get overwhelmed (which I think happens far too often) I shut down. So my problem is more the reverse, knowing how to lift the firewall so I can reconnect with people. I live in my head way too much, I'd say.

I'm an ISFJ (Protector). Reading the descriptions just made me sad, not fun to see "doormat" and "taken for granted" rubbed in your face. Kind of makes me feel like all those daydreams of someday standing up for myself are always going to be just daydreams.

Many of the traits of the empath from the Judy Orloff article apply to me, but I'm pretty sure I'm not.

:highfives the feelow ISFJ:

I was bitching upthread about this, but I do honestly think that you end up growing into your strengths some. I've learned to push back when necessary.

I didn't want to retake the test, so I marked myself as both INTP and ENTP. I came up with INTP for years every time I took it but realized recently that I hadn't changed the way I answer things at all since high school and really, I should have because I'm not so much an introvert any more.

I am also the least empathetic/empathic person on the planet I think. I'm not emotional at all, and I don't pick up on or understand the emotions of others. If one of my friends cries, for example, I usually just get annoyed and uncomfortable and leave them alone. If a friend's relative or pet dies, I avoid them for a few weeks because I don't respond to death in a normal American way and I know that makes others uncomfortable or even offended, but I can't rewire my own head.

... Basically I am a less scientific Temperance Brennon.

Empath (AND bipolar, oh God, oh Goddess), but NOT INFP. I'm an ISFP (a composer? who knew, but it makes sense), but as for the healing...I've done it myself, multiple times to various people, over the course of ten or fifteen years (I started when I was 12).

It's hard to describe, but it's always been there, and I can still call it up at any time and use it (people describe a powerful heat emanating from my hands and then I can usually feel the pain, like it's a magnet and so are my hands and then I can drag it out of the person, and someone, somewhere, on the interwebs is thinking about looking up my IP address and calling the men in white coats).

"Have I been labeled as "too emotional" or overly sensitive?

If a friend is distraught, do I start feeling it too?

Are my feelings easily hurt?

Am I emotionally drained by crowds, require time alone to revive?

Do my nerves get frayed by noise, smells, or excessive talk?

Do I prefer taking my own car places so that I can leave when I please?"

They are in my head.

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What do you call it when someone isn't an empath but an expath? Meaning they radiate their emotions so strongly that they project them into everyone else like a laser beam. Because that's my husband. I will be in another room and suddenly feel angry or depressed and march through the house to him and say, WHAT IS GOING ON? and it will turn out he's upset about work or something. And one time he was standing next to our son's crib and got wordlessly angry and our son burst into tears. It's not that my son and I are empaths because no one else has that effect on us, just my husband. So. Weird.

(FWIW, I'm an ENFP and work as a writer and teacher, pretty typical for that type).

"broadcaster" is one term I've heard.

I am whatever type is incapable of seeing a difference between these groups of four letters when they are written down. Can't remember one for more than five seconds, either. Argh.

Otherwise known as INTJ, apparently. o_O How does the test tell the difference between learned behaviors and instinctive ones, I wonder? Or does that not matter?

Me too! Also INTJ (or maybe ISTJ). I wonder if that's coincidence...